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Recently, I was given the opportunity to do something that people are rarely able to do, have an open, honest and cathartic conversation with an exes ex.

I have this blog to thank for bringing us together recently and words cannot express how much a simple conversation was able to assist me in the path to truly letting go and getting over a man who has taken up too much of my mind and heart of late.

Whilst my friends and family may think they understand the benefit of being able to share your feelings and experiences with someone who understands better than anyone what you’re going through, I don’t think they completely “get” the delicious ability to connect with someone whom you’ve never met, know very little about (mostly lies it turns out anyway) and whom you are aligned to in a way that few others on the planet are aligned.

It begs the question’ “why?” though. Why did it take a simple conversation with Miss Ex to make me realise that I was completely right in leaving this particular man?

Self doubt can manifest so quickly that it took speaking to someone who had experienced the not so gentle nuances of my ex boyfriend to knock some sense into me. Thank goodness for that!

A fellow strong woman had succumbed to the charms of this well practiced man and I only hope that I can pay it forward as she has.

What questions would you ask an exes ex if given the opportunity? Post your responses here or on our Facebook page!

Side Note…

Many of you have been asking about Mr Vaughn and whether I ever did get that “dream date”. The short answer is no. Mr Vaughn was a very confused man it seems and I told him the best way to describe him was actually “Mr Hot and Cold”!

He would call/message continually, then disappear off the face of the earth until I called him out on his behaviour, made it clear that I wanted to be with a man who knew what he wanted and he said he was thinking about moving back to his homeland of Ireland and didn’t want to lead me on…just in case he actually did move.

Whether that was true or not is beyond me, but, I’m happy to give anyone the benefit of the doubt, knowing full well that, regardless, it wasn’t the sort of relationship I was after.

It was a shame because we really did click in so many ways and seemed to be on the same page more often than not, but what will be will be I suppose! I had fun with him and there are no regrets!

Thank you for your messages, emails and Facebook posts of encouragement surrounding this particular man, it was very flattering!